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A teacher or other school professional receiving a domestic violence disclosure from a child / young person should make reference to the school's Safeguarding Children's Policy and Procedure.

To help effectively support a child with their disclosure it is advised that school staff:

  • validate the experience of the child/young person by acknowledging the feelings and taking the account seriously;
  • value the strengths the child/young person has shown by surviving and for making the decision to protect others in the family;
  • listen to the child/young person;
  • not interview or ask him/her to repeat the account;
  • avoid leading questions as these could jeopardise current or future prosecutions;
  • avoid interrupting when the child/young person is recalling events;
  • carefully note what is said, verbatim, or as near as possible, including details such as timing, setting, who was present and what was said, in the child/young person's words;
  • not suggest any alternative explanations;
  • check out how safe the child/young person feels now and in general and ask him or her about plans for the rest of the day.
  • not promise the child/young person confidentiality, if he/she has witnessed domestic violence it must be reported to the safeguarding lead.
  • explain to the child/young person what is going to happen next
  • explain who will be told initially: If it is decided later, in the interests of safety, that other members of school staff need to know, the child/young person will be informed;

It is important that teachers / professionals do not contact the alleged perpetrator of domestic violence in the event that a referral is made, or at any other time discuss the matter with the alleged perpetrator. 

Contact should only be made with the non-abusive parent and should be done in a safe manner. Discussions about domestic violence should never be made in front of others.

Further guidance can be obtained from the support services below.


Domestic abuse is never the fault of the child or young person being hurt

Support for children

  0800 1111 

ChildLine provide phoneline support and website support to children.

The Hideout is a website supporting children and young people who are living with domestic violence or who want to support a friend in this situation. 

Respect Not Fear is a website for young people  aged 11+ about relationships with information, support and interactive games.


Services for adults 

 (24 hr free phone) 0808 800 0340

Women's Aid offer information and support to women and children through a variety of projects including phone support, outreach and refuge.


 0808 801 0327

Male offers phoneline support to men experiencing domestic violence and can give men contacts to safe houses for men.


 0800 999 5428

National LGBT Domestic Abuse Helpline (which is run by Galop) is a specialist helpline for lesbian, gay, transgendered survivors of domestic abuse.


 0800 599 9247 

Karma Nirvana offers help and support to people who have experienced, or are at risk of experiencing honour based abuse, including forced marriage.


Equation are experts in equipping, enabling and empowering communities to build relationships free from abuse. Equation achieves this in many ways including through providing information and training for professionals resources for professionals to use when working with children who may have experienced domestic abuse. For more information, please click here.